Thursday, August 25, 2011

Guys Don't Like Talking About Their Problems

(ScienceDaily) – “For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the MU College of Arts and Science. “However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn’t express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys’ responses suggest that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity.” Rose and her colleagues conducted four different studies that included surveys and observations of nearly 2,000 children and adolescents. The researchers found that girls had positive expectations for how talking about problems would make them feel, such as expecting to feel cared for, understood and less alone. On the other hand, boys did not endorse some negative expectations more than girls, such as expecting to feel embarrassed, worried about being teased, or bad about not taking care of the problems themselves. Instead, boys reported that talking about problems would make them feel “weird” and like they were “wasting time.”

And mark another one for pointless studies that waste shit tons of money, time and resources. Ask any guy "Why don't you like talking about your feelings and problems?" and you can expect one of two answers. 1. "It's a waste of time. Talking rarely comes to fruition." or 2. "'Cause I'm too busy doing something about it. God, you sound like my psychiatrist."

Just do an observational study of guys. How many times do fights end because of talking things through? Rarely? And if they do it takes a shit ton of time and effort. You're just better off doing whatever it is you wanna do and prove 'em wrong by being awesome. At least that is what I've always done.

And what does it say women get out of talking? Feeling less alone, understanding and feeling cared for. All they want is to be important. Go figure. The only reason they do pretty much anything.

What this whole thing proves is that girls care 100x more about everything then men do. Guys are even keel for the most part, women are bat-shit crazy.

Disclaimer: I must mention that my girlfriend is the only exception to the above. This must be made addendum so I don't have to deal with the repercussions of saying they're all needy.

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